Mom Versus Career

Finding the balance between being a competent decision-maker, a desirable spouse, and a kick-ass mom.

Teen Mom: Trash or Truth? September 21, 2011

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I admit it. I watch Teen Mom. I’m sure the show is not complete reality for these girls, but I do think it provides a platform for discussing sex openly with teenagers. I am not yet to that point with my daughter, but I hope I’ll be able to be open and honest with her when she has questions. I would rather she ask me about sex instead of experimenting first and asking questions later.

I simultaneously admire and sympathize with the young mothers on that show. Raising a child when you’re in a stable relationship is hard enough. I can’t imagine how they are able to manage raising their children, going to school, dealing with parents/ex-boyfriends, and being young single mothers all at the same time.

Tuesday night’s episode was the season finale. It was a tear-jerker. Here’s a brief summary:

1. Farrah decides to move to Florida and is torn between taking her daughter Sophia with her or leaving Sophia with Grandma for two years while Farrah completes her Bachelor’s degree.

2. Amber’s no-contact order with her ex-boyfriend is lifted, but she can’t see him while their daughter Leah is around.

3. Maci and her son Bentley’s father, Ryan, can’t stop fighting and Maci wants to marry her current boyfriend Kyle, but he’s not ready. He makes an excellent point that they are both only 19 years old.

4. Catelyn and her boyfriend Tyler, who made the mature and extremely difficult decision to allow another couple to adopt their daughter, allow Tyler’s dad/Catelyn’s stepdad (same person) Butch to live with them while he is on parole and in rehab. Butch gets arrested again and Catelyn and Tyler decide it would be too emotional if their daughter and her adoptive parents attended the couple’s high school graduation ceremony.

Each of the young women featured face extremely difficult, potentially volatile, emotional situations and decisions. I don’t envy them.

The young women featured in this episode are strong, ambitious, scared and doing their best to be good mothers. Some of them have the support of their families while others are forced to forge their own paths as parents and adults. I admire their courage and tenacity. Regardless of their individual situations, each of the young women featured in this show keep pushing themselves to be better mothers, better people.

I know some people think the show makes the lives of these women look glamorous, but I think it provides a glimpse into their lives and some of the realities they face as young mothers. They don’t always make the best the choices, but they are trying, as all mothers do, to do their best.

I have seen first-hand the difficulties teen moms face, but I have also seen them persevere and overcome insurmountable obstacles to become strong, independent women who fiercely love their children. I doubt any of the teen moms featured on the show will read this post, but I hope they realize just how strong they are and that they have so much to look forward to. It’s hard work, but it’s worth it. I sincerely wish them well.

Do you watch Teen Mom? What do you think about this show? Why?

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Family First September 20, 2011

About two weeks ago, I posted this on my Facebook/Twitter accounts:

“Never second-guess yourself when it comes to making your family your first priority.”

I decided to literally and figuratively take a step back. I gave up my title in favor of putting my family first and doing more of what I enjoy doing at work: writing and editing. This was not an easy decision and it was completely contrary to my second post (“There’s Gotta Be Somethin’ More”).

No, it’s not the ideal solution, but it’s the best option given my current situation. Will it be a difficult transition? Likely. Will it cause my peers to view me in a different light? Also, likely. Do I care what they think? Not as much as I care about my family and doing what’s right for us.

For a long time I was struggling with trying to be a Super Mom: the one who can do it all and still has time to make a home-cooked meal every night of the week. Yeah, she doesn’t exist; at least not in my world. I have nothing but complete respect and admiration for those mothers who can do the things I want to do. Please share your secrets with me!

Someone asked me: “Who says you have to pursue your career while your daughter is still young? She’ll be in school for 12 more years. You’ll likely be working for at least another 20 years after she graduates from high school. Plenty of time to pursue your career.”

That may sound like a cop-out to some, but no one had ever presented me with that option. You would think I would have come to that conclusion on my own since my mom did that very thing. But I couldn’t see past my desire to succeed as a career professional, a great mom and an amazing wife.

I don’t need to sacrifice any of those roles, but I need to put them in perspective and assign them appropriate priority. So I did.

This decision did not come easily. I weighed the pros and cons in my life as well as the effect it would have on my team. Overall, I think the solution presented will provide all of us with greater flexibility and a chance to truly work as a team. At least, that is my hope.

A weight has been lifted from my shoulders. I look forward to doing more of what I love and to fostering better relationships with my family and my coworkers. It’s a new day. 🙂

 

I Got Nothin’ September 1, 2011

Writers block has reared its ugly head again. I had some great ideas yesterday and promptly forgot them because I didn’t jot them down in my new favorite cross-platform app, Evernote.

So, now I am trying to remember my ideas but I’m not having much luck. I’m hoping that just writing anything, like this post about nothing, will help jog my memory. Nothing yet.

It’s like when someone’s name is “on the tip of your tongue;” my ideas are just out of my mental grasp.

My ideas are playing hide and seek in my brain. I have a vague notion of the direction at least one of my ideas is heading, but I can’t seem to catch it before it turns a corner or finds a better hiding spot elsewhere in my mind.

I’ll probably remember my ideas tonight while I’m sleeping or tomorrow morning while I’m in the shower. That’s how it usually goes. 🙂

What do you do to work through writer’s block or any other creative block? What do you do to get your ‘creative juices’ flowing?

 

 
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